How We Learned to Distrust the Body So when someone says, “Notice what’s happening in your body,” it can feel unfamiliar and unfamiliar often gets labeled as “woo.” The Mind-Over-Body Bias Western culture has long elevated the mind above the body. From Descartes’ “I think, therefore I am,” to modern productivity culture, we’re taught that thinking is superior and bodily experience is secondary. If it can’t be measured in numbers, debated in language, or solved cognitively, i

What Does “Relax” Mean to You? When you think about the word relax , what comes to mind? More importantly, what do you feel in your body? (Don't panic if that feels empty or ridiculous to you right now.) Is relaxing a treat for you? Something you earn after a long day of being “good” and getting everything done? Is it something that only happens when you’re finally falling asleep? Or is it that quiet scrolling trance, the one that looks like rest but doesn’t actually soothe

Understanding Anxiety: When It Becomes a Constant Companion We all feel anxiety, it’s part of being human. Although for some of us, anxiety isn’t just a visitor; it’s a constant companion. We live in a state of hypervigilance, always scanning for what might go wrong. That kind of anxiety can stop us from taking risks, stepping outside, meeting new people, or saying yes to opportunities. It can shrink our world until safety starts to feel like isolation. For many neurodivergen

We tell ourselves we’re “just relaxing” , phone in hand, thumb scrolling, mind half elsewhere. It feels harmless, even deserved. But what if the very thing we call rest is quietly keeping us activated? What if the easy scroll, that soft, endless drift through other people’s lives, ideas, and stories is one of the reasons we feel so tense, distracted, and overstimulated? This isn’t about guilt or judgment. It’s about understanding how our nervous systems work, what they crave

Easier said than done If you’re parenting while in survival mode or navigating a particularly challenging situation, it can feel impossible to stay calm or mindful. Offer yourself compassion, you are doing the best you can right now. For single parents, families living in poverty, those managing disabilities, or anyone carrying extra burdens, the advice about parenting, mindfulness, and nervous system regulation may feel out of reach. That doesn’t mean support isn’t possible.

Many people think people-pleasing is simply being “too nice.”In reality, it’s often a survival response, deeply rooted in how our nervous system learned to keep us safe.For those living with shame, perfectionism, or the aftermath of narcissistic abuse , people-pleasing can feel almost automatic. And if you’re neurodivergent  (ADHD, autism, or otherwise wired differently), masking and over-responsibility may add another layer of emotional exhaustion. This constant self-silenc

First and foremost, I feel it’s important to start by saying the method of therapy matters less than the relationship with the therapist. This is backed up by research, so trust your gut! The one you feel most comfortable and connected with is most likely to help you. It is also notable that most people want the tools until they realise the tools can only take you so far. Imagine you’re trying to fix a wobbly shelf with a screwdriver. You can tighten the screws again and agai